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Hi all!! A good friend of mine has a 2 1/2 year old boy who has recently become extremely aggressive around his mommy and also other kids. At the park, he has a tendency to hit other kids, even with toys. The only child he doesn't hit is my 3 1/2 year old daughter...I'm not sure why....Mommy is at her whits end and not sure what to do. She tries time-out, but he won't stay in it. Taking away toys? He isn't interested. The only thing that makes sense to me is that he won't nap. I know if my daughter misses her nap she becomes the "evil one." I've tried to tell my friend how important it is for her very energetic son to at least have an hour of quiet time in his room...but he just will not to it. Matter of fact, she has asked me to do some research for her as she can't leave him alone for 2 seconds for fear of destruction in her house. WOW!!! Any advice ladies?? Thanks in advance...
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Re: Advice on super-aggressive 2 1/2 year old
Wed, April 9, 2008 - 7:49 AMa lot of parents think a good place to begin research is with dr. sears ... www.askdrsears.com/html/6/T060100.asp -
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Re: Advice on super-aggressive 2 1/2 year old
Sun, April 13, 2008 - 4:16 PMI had a very aggressive 2 year old and went to his doctor we ran some tests and it was b/c he had tactile integration disorder. After one year of therapy he is a GREAT little boy!
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Re: Advice on super-aggressive 2 1/2 year old
Mon, April 28, 2008 - 5:21 PMMy son was very spirited in a similar way, until he turned three. I tried everything under the sun it felt like. I would just say wait it out! Some of 'em really go through the terriffic twos. Also, I would remind her that some kids go thru this phase at two. It is nothing she is doing that is making him behave this way. He will grow out of it if he is demonstrated clear boundaries and good communication. -
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Re: Advice on super-aggressive 2 1/2 year old
Tue, July 15, 2008 - 1:03 PMI think co-sleeping can really help with some things. Maybe finding constructing ways for him to vent energy- like playing in the mud, etc. -
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Re: Advice on super-aggressive 2 1/2 year old
Tue, July 15, 2008 - 8:54 PMMy daughter was being very grabby, she would grab at my face when she was frustrated. What I started doing was offering her high-fives so that she would have a way to let out her aggressive energy that wasn't hurtful. Once it was okay for her to be frustrated and I wasn't trying to stop her she quit on her own accord.
I found a really great book called Gentle Discipline by Hilary Flowers. It has given me some really good ideas and focuses not really on discipline but on working with a child's needs and making things into games so that it's not so serious all the time. One mom in the book (where I got the high-five idea) said that when her child would be frustrated and aggressive she would show her what it was okay to hit, like a stuffed animal or the floor. The mother would actually hit the ground in a playful manner and it would turn into a giggle fest. The book has a lot of input from actual parents who have gone through the trials and tribulations so you can figure out what works best for you. Can you tell I love it? ;)
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Re: Advice on super-aggressive 2 1/2 year old
Thu, August 14, 2008 - 12:17 AMI think a homeopath could really help this kid. Also try a naturopath, there could be an underlying medical reason for the aggression. If you need any referals, I have a great naturopathic pediatrition. good lick . -
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naturopathic pediatrician?
Thu, August 14, 2008 - 10:14 AMwhre are you located? I have a goode naturopathic doctor I like here in Berkeley area, and there are severtal others, but the ones I know practice mostly adult medicinbe. (Dr Rebecca WIlhelm did see my 13 year olf, but that's not the same as a doctor for toddlers and infants etc...)
would love a referral if you have one; people do ask me, especially people who are seeking alternatives to routine immunizations. -
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Re: naturopathic pediatrician?
Tue, September 2, 2008 - 2:16 PMThanks everyone for the terrific advice....I am thrilled to tell you all that the uber-aggressive little boy is doing SO MUCH BETTER!!!! He has started seeing a speech therapist and had an incredible breakthrough...mom says aggressiveness is down about 75%! Also, he just started MDO where my daughter goes to pre-k. So far, so good!!! Again, thank you, thank you, thank you!!!! :) BTW, we are in Houston, TX... -
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Re: naturopathic pediatrician?
Wed, September 3, 2008 - 6:36 PMI know I am a few months late on this, but would still like to chime in, I hope that's okay.
I had similar issues with my now-7-year-old daughter. I was scared to go anywhere at all with her because she was sure to tear away from me and break something. She didn't nap from the time she was 1.5. Even on long car rides (6 hours!), no sleep. My older daughter would fall asleep if we drove around the BLOCK, so this was bewildering to me. She would sleep okay at night, but reeked havoc all day every day. Looking back, it is so obvious and I wish I had acknowledged it earlier - she has ADHD. The *real* ADHD, emphasis on the "H" for HYPER. :) Even though I have known for... ever.... I was told repeatedly that she was just a baby, and then that she was acting out because of my divorce, and then (this is the one that stuck for years) that I wasn't disciplining her effectively. I let her walk all over me, how else would I expect her to behave?! I don't tell many people because I know a lot of people tend to roll their eyes and say, "Whatever." And obviously that hurts. And I know some people will continue to think it's just that I am a bad mom, and I say "Whatever!" to them. So my rant here is to say that I hope your friend hasn't been beaten down by other's judgments. If she has been, have her chat me up. :)
Glad to hear things are going well with them!
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